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the point of these games are to be social and have fun, i'v only played one match but it felt like 3 of the players out of the 4 worked together to get me out, and the thing is my reputation is lowering just because they don't like me trying to talk and have fun, are games normally like this?

Honestly i'm not really upset by being targeted, just the fact they went out of there way trying to make me feel bad for trying to put myself out there, but i know my energy is normally high compared to others

Heres the full log though (Keep in mind it is possible that they weren't targeting me, but 2 of them specifically that went right after the other kept chosing me as there target So in turn i kept having to defend myself specifically against one other player, In this match i think they traded me a total of 3 queens and then made me swap out my deck to eliminate me, if anything i just want somebody to check out the match, or maybe not have my reputation be effected by that)

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Whats the point of even saying this? there's no point except trying to make me feel bad

*Moderator edit: the chat photos have been removed. The Forums are for general discussion only, not for calling out other players. Posting the full chat log is not appropriate, especially since this was full of profanity, which is not acceptable on BGA.

Hi Owsea,

I have to agree that must seem like a punch in the gut to get a message like that in your first game.

You haven't included any of your chat that led up to that, so it's possible you said something they took the wrong way. Another factor is that English may not be their native language.

EDIT: I see you have updated your post with more of your chat. What they said was probably still unnecessary, but it makes a little more sense.

I've had nice chats with players, but usually after the game is over. My experience is that most players are not very talkative and you'll have to accept that. I'll usually start the game with a friendly greeting and thank everyone when it's over.

There is a BGA group called "Talkative and friendly games"
https://boardgamearena.com/group?id=1088438

I don't really know much about that group, but I'd like to think you wouldn't get that reaction there!

Good luck!

Shivaware wrote: ↑13 August 2022, 06:18 EDIT: I see you have updated your post with more of your chat. What they said was probably still unnecessary, but it makes a little more sense.

Are you kiding ? I would have reported OP if I were in this table, its last message is completely unnapropriate.
That being said, it was still not a nice answer from them, so you can try to report them if you also feeled agressed by their last message.

Tisaac wrote: ↑13 August 2022, 10:10 Are you kiding ? I would have reported OP if I were in this table, its last message is completely unnapropriate.

And not just that, the swearing, some take offense to it. OP gets a warning from BGA that the said a word that could be taken the wrong way, couple of sentences later he does it again.

As far as i can tell swearing is okay if its not a direct harassment which i never harassed anyone in that match (Why not just have a rule that you can't swear at all then?) and what i said about the kissing thing is obviously a joke like "Tucking the homies in and kissing them" and it wasn't aggressive at all, maybe since its through text it doesn't seem as playful?

either way i wouldn't deserve to be reported anyways because i didn't break any rules, in the rules it even states

'The general rule you should follow is to talk to people (in the forum, in the chat, ...) as if they were friends that you invited to play at your home. Then you'll naturally give them your attention and be kind to them so that everyone feels welcome and at ease. And it's always great to play with friends!"

My friends don't talk that way.