Declining a rematch, IMO, is not grounds for a red thumb. Agreeing to play one online game with a stranger on BGA does not constitute a commitment to play all rematch games that stranger might request. The obligation is one game at a time. That's it. I've had players ask me for a rematch on many occasions and I've declined multiple times for various reasons, which I would explain if asked. But if someone gives me a red thumb for declining without asking my reasons for doing so then that's fine too - just means I won't have to play with them in the future. Whatever.
These are the primary reasons I've declined rematch requests in the past:
- I've played my last game of the day (or for that particular session) - time for me to go to bed, go back to work, make dinner, or just chill out doing something else. I have a life outside of BGA and I assume others do as well.
- I'm done playing that specific game and want to move on to a different game.
- I didn't enjoy playing with this particular opponent. I didn't like their playing style - too slow, too aggressive, blocking me every single turn, even when they could have gotten significantly higher points if they had not done so... making passive aggressive comments in the chat or being too chatty overall. Things like that.
Not trying to change your mind, just offering up a perspective on rematch requests that you may not have considered. If you still insist on playing rematches every time you lose (and giving red thumbs if your opponent declines), that's your personal choice to do so but you aren't likely to get what you want by taking that approach.
These are the primary reasons I've declined rematch requests in the past:
- I've played my last game of the day (or for that particular session) - time for me to go to bed, go back to work, make dinner, or just chill out doing something else. I have a life outside of BGA and I assume others do as well.
- I'm done playing that specific game and want to move on to a different game.
- I didn't enjoy playing with this particular opponent. I didn't like their playing style - too slow, too aggressive, blocking me every single turn, even when they could have gotten significantly higher points if they had not done so... making passive aggressive comments in the chat or being too chatty overall. Things like that.
Not trying to change your mind, just offering up a perspective on rematch requests that you may not have considered. If you still insist on playing rematches every time you lose (and giving red thumbs if your opponent declines), that's your personal choice to do so but you aren't likely to get what you want by taking that approach.
